Breaking Up Is Hard to Do

Welcome to the board art4sol,

Grieve for what might have been, for what could have been, for what you hoped would have been. At least you realize you love an illusion, someone that doesn't exist, a fantasy. Letting go isn't easy. It always reminds me of Scarlet holding on to the fantasy of Ashley, living in the past.

The most painful state of being is remembering the future, particularly one you can never have - Kierkegaard

So often times it happens that we live our lives in chains And we never even know we have the key - The Eagles

Sorry you are going through this.

Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't.
- Erica Jong

it sounds like a tough situation, but with the way you described the man he has become it is obvious you are better off without him, i feel sorry for his wife.

i am sure if you and your husband did break up you would regret it and start thinking of how amazing he was, it happens with relationships it often seems like the grass is greener on the other side but in your case you know it isnt! i would say just try and be happy in your relationship think about all the good things you have now, you can never have the past version of that man, he doesn't exist anymore so maybe you need to get over it and grieve for him as if he died!

Its tough but i am sure you will be fine, hope you feel happier soon. xx