Breaking Up Is Hard to Do

Sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same...

Re-read your post. It's obvious this isn't working for you.  It's not fair to him, or yourself to keep this up and down cycle going.  I think you only fall back to him because you are so used to the comfort of having him there.  You are scared to take that step into the unknown. trust me, almost everyone has been there.  You just have to dig deep down and find the strength within yourself to stick to it and keep moving.  If you aren't happy then GO. Find someone new...or better yet, take some time to yourself, away from guys and learn about who you really are.

You know what you need to do, it's just a matter of you taking that first step and following through. Good Luck

Welcome to the board babsy_42,

7 times? Clearly, the relationship is not working. When a relationship ends, no matter the reason, there is grief involved. My guess is you are confusing feelings of grief for love. Grieve for what might have been, for what could have been, for what you hoped would have been.... let go a little each day. Try No Contact for 30 days then see how you feel.

Reading material to consider and helpful links:

Are You the One for Me? Barbara DeAngelis

It's Called a Breakup Because it's Broken, Greg Behrendt

How to Get Over Your Breakup - http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlbreaking&msg=21185.1

Relationship Grieving Process - http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlbreaking&msg=22985.1

Zen of Doing Nothing - http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlbreaking&msg=21173.1

 

Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't.
- Erica Jong

 

Another book that might truly open your eyes to what's going on within you is "He's Scared, She's Scared" by Carter and Sokol.

This is classic commitmentphobia.