Breaking Up Is Hard to Do

>>what man that is married lives with another women? <<

In his defence, I started living with my now partner of 17 years while I was still married to my ex. I had absolutely no feelings for my ex, I just don't set much store in paperwork. Besides, we have to be separated for a year before we can process a divorce....so that put me back a bit.

I was honest and upfront about still being married though.

That aside, I'm having a lot of trouble understanding your situation. The fact that he's living with you makes me think he's not living with her. But you also say that he's never going to leave her. So, what is the actual situation here? Are they together or not?

What about his divorce? Now that all is in the open, what does he say? Is he persuing a divorce or not? Because there-in lies the answer to your question.

Try to stop making assumptions and start talking to him. And don't assume the ex's pregnancy means anything other than the fact they had sex 9 months ago.

he is no longer living with me, he claims he is going to leave her but goes back and forth. He says he is leaving and wants to be with me. he makes plans with me and then today he was with her. claimed he was going to tell her today. then he told me could not. he behaves as if they are together but claims they are not

again, he claimed he was going to get a divorce before he even knew i was pregnant...but today he claims he can not choose btwn families, his with her and his with me....if that makes sense. he stays with a friend....so he says.

Welcome to the board siennajaden,

Sorry you are going through this. You know what a jerk he is now. Not that that means much at this point. My suggestion, end all contact with him from your side. Focus on what you want and what you want your future to be and start moving forward.

Hugs.

 

Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't.
- Erica Jong