Like a Virgin

A discussion on another post lead me to question this -

For all those that are waiting for religious/moral values;

I commend you for sticking to your principles and religious/moral values, however i am curious to know if indeed you have been in situations that required you to think about and actually put those beliefs/stances (true love waits, no premarital sex) into practice.

Life brings many challenges and when in a relationship sex is one big one.

Todays word makes us face realities and the reality is that we live in a very sex aware world.... temptation is all around us, and yes, you may have a strong moral and religious stance on premarital sex but in a situation where sex meant getting closer or progressing your relationship, would you walk away if you were already emotionally involved?

How would you handle such a situation?

Basics of Sex 

I personally don't let myself get emotionally involved with someone unless they understand and support my choices, so walking away isn't really an issue.

My boyfriend is supportive of my decision and has told me that even if I tell him I want to have sex with him, he'll say no. So are we challenged by temptation? Not really. We're on the same page and are both willing to step back and reassess the situation if things seem to be going to far. In fact, talking about this progresses our relationship, we don't need to have sex to do that.

I am glad to hear things are going well for you....  :)

Compromise and communication is a great thing to have in a relationship and yes i agree, talking about things, being understanding and compromising definitely progresses any relationship. In my opinion those are the foundations of a great union, sex is the icing on the cake....

I understand that you have discussed your stance and he respects that, what would happen, however, if he was to become very attached to you and wanted to get more physical to compliment and intensify the physical union?

We can not say never,every man/woman has needs and those needs are intensified when the physical is in easy reach.

Basics of Sex 

He's already pretty attached - and has only had sex with one woman, but regrets it. It's really not a matter of him respecting my decision, but agreeing it's the right thing to do, so I don't worry about him eventually wanting it. In fact, he told me that HE'S worried that I'm sitting around thinking he'll change his mind, and he doesn't want me to do that, because he's with me all the way.

But since I guess you mean hypothetically, I'd probably leave him, since he wouldn't be the same person anymore (and would probably have told a flat out lie).

I did walk away from one relationship.

We'd been dating three-four months (I forget - it was a while ago). We had talked about it, but apparently we didn't actually share the same beliefs. And I walked away without a backwards look. I knew right then that no matter how emotionally attached I was at that moment, that relationship could never work, so why get myself even more attached?

My now-husband and I dated for more than three years before we became engaged, and almost another year before we got married a few months ago. Sex was a temptation, but we actually did share beliefs, and we supported each other in those moments when there was a real strong desire.

Mary