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Annoyed at my friend

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  Oct-26 7:27 pm

I'm annoyed at my girl friend, who i helped through a bad breakup (I'm her only friend in law school pretty much and kept her company at nights after her bf of 3 years impregnated another female).

She went on a 5 day trip w/ my boyfriend to DC.  I was a little jumpy becuase they were sharing a hotel room ... she could have gotten her own... but was saving money.  She knows what unease feels like.  But worse, while they were there she said to him, "you better be nice to me because bluemackerel (not  my real name) is having me report to her your EVERY MOVE!!"  bounty hunter alert!  I mean why couldn't she have said, "I'll tell bluemackerel if you are not nice to me!"  -oh right, because that would make HER, not ME the bad guy, but I have more at stake (my boyfriend).  The most annoying aspect is, I didn't even ask her to give me a report.

then she said, "Bluemackerel says you wear women's underwear!!"  in an effort to tease him.  I told her no such thing!  If she wanted to tease him why didn't she just say "you wear women's underwear!" instead of pin it on me.  He thought i was blabbing about our sex life... uh, no he does not wear womens underwear but we do some kinky things.  But regardless, i never told her that.

So i expressed to her not to make up things I didn't say, but the damage has already been done.  So now she wants to go back and say i didn't say he wore womens' underwear, which I think would make it worse because the subject is closed, and he will know I went and told her our conversation.



Edited 10/26/2009 9:23 pm ET by bluemackerel
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  Oct-26 8:51 pm

sounds like your friend is not a real friend - be careful what you tell people about your  bf and about your life in general - your friends dont need to know every little detail.
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  Oct-27 4:32 pm

Ugh, I agree with the previous poster. Only you can decide how to handle this girl, but I think this link may be helpful:

6 Types of Toxic Friends and How You Can Deal with Them


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