Betrayed Girlfriends Support

Glad to see you back, ragingangel!!

Hope things are going well your way!!!!

 

 

 

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Nice to have you back on the board, wellhonestlynow!!

Come back and post often!!

 

 

 

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Am I correct in guessing you are pretty young? (ie early 20's?).  It sounds like he might be reacting very negatively to having a lot of the responsibility for the relationship put on him.  You might want to try to plan a date for the two of you instead of getting mad when he makes plans with his buddies- if you say on Monday "I'd like to take you out to dinner this Saturday" and he does put that time aside for you, well then it sounds like your problem is on its way to being solved.  I am in no way saying its not normal to want a guyt to sort of sweep you off your feet at the beginning, but again the impression I am getting from what you are saying is that you are both pretty young (maybe its the family stuff that is making me think that).  Also its not going to help to get mad thathe puts family first.  The fact is, you've only been dating a few months, and it would probably be a little weird if he was already making you a huge priority over friends and family.  You shouldn't put up with feeling neglected, but until you take some steps to fix it and instead blame him, I can sort of understand why he's acting a little distant and might even be looking for a way out-  NO ONE wants to be solely responsible or to be nagged and told what he or she DOES do for the other person just isn't good enough.  Instead, just gush when he does do something that makes you happy, you know? It will make him realize that such things are appreciated and that you aren't just going to focus on what you don't think you are getting.  In the end, it could be that you are in fact mismatched in terms of what you need in a relationship and if you're not happy, move on, because someone out there is probablya better fit for you, but it doesn't sound like its beyond hope!

By the way, the 3 month mark is a little early to be coming to all of each others family events so I wouldn't focus too much on that if I were you.  Its hard to keep introducing new significant others to family before either person is pretty confident that the relationship is going places, you know?

The relationship is very new for alot of this. It very well may be that you are mismatched as some others have said. I would suggest before you throw in the towel that maybe you just need to sit down and talk with him about what it is that is bothering you. You two do seem to have very different expectations of where your relationship should be.

You cannot expect him to give up his friends etc... for you all together and you need some "you time" also with friends. Being glued a the hip all the time is unhealthy too and I wish I had gotten that advice from someone when I was younger and entering the dating world.

Best of luck!

Hi,

I am in a similiar situation and all I have to say is GET OUT!!! Get out before you waste more time on this douchebag. 

I'm going to give you some tuff love- when you meet someone for the first time, you show them how you want them to treat you.  You set the bar of expectations very low from the beginning, and now its going to be very difficult to change him.  You showned him from the beginning that you are willing to put up with this behavior.  You cannot change a person - you cannot make a person take you out - you cannot make a person love.  By you nagging him to take you - is not going to make him do it. BTDT.

He should WANT to do it because he respects & cares about you. 

You need to decide whether you are willing to accept this behavior and work around it or dump him and move.  I think the latter decision is better.  Good luck!