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  carakay
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  Oct-12 5:36 pm

I have been with my fella for about three yrs now and most of it weve had sexual probs, in form of him not being willing to participate in sexual intercourse as much as id like. Literally every fight weve had is about him not giving me as much sex as id want. This results in making me feel unwanted and freaklike. He cant always raise to the occasion, and has been to dr only couple times about this as he is embarrassed, despite my support. He has also had problem of not being able to climax sometimes and not eager to climax and he would need sex fraction of times id want it.
Because of this and the fact he kept promising to compramise, i have ended our relationship. I have had very little feedback from him and its made me mad. Ifeel all i have felt for him was nothing and he has to be told what to do...When we do make love i have to instigate it and i feel im taking somethin from him.
Icant watch love scenes on tv. It makes me feel im not the normal and everyone elses husbands want them... I am a very sexual person and very emotional and feel he just pulls a switch and i have to shutoff, which i cant cos im a very tactile and emotional person...
I know i have probably done the right thing saying its over but weve been here lots of times before and he talks me round promising love and raising my hopes... i feel so sad and alone
any advice and kind words PLEASE>>> I feel terrible xx x x
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  Oct-12 6:57 pm

In the long run, I think you did the right thing. The problem is it really hurts in the short term. But without him in your life, you're free to develop yourself more...to become the person you want to become in every way: sexually, socially, emotionally, intellectually. And then you'll be attracting men that are like the new and improved you as well. And if you're careful, you'll find a man that has similar sexual interests and wants to yours.

I wish you the best.
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  Oct-13 7:48 am

Well I wish you the best.  In the long run, you did the right thing for yourself but for the short term it hurts because you care about him.   Just remember to remind yourself why you left if you start longing for the relationship again, how you felt  and how it won't ever change.

Explore life for yourself for a while and maybe in the process, if you're interested, you'll find someone more compatible with you.
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  Oct-13 11:40 am

Try to be strong. It hurts now but you're opening your life back up to the possibility of happiness.
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  Oct-13 12:05 pm

thankyou for your kind words...been crying alot today and miss things about him but know things wont change, cant change...just feel sad and full of loss...trying to look fwd now
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