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Emotional connection during sex?

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  Oct-23 11:03 pm

I apologize if this has already been discussed but I am having trouble wrapping my brain around him saying he feels nothing emotionally during sex.

Thoughts anyone? Do you think emotional connection during sex is a HL thing, or not necessarily, I guess I thought everyone felt that connection, but now am curious as to how many do (or don't).

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  Oct-23 11:49 pm

I think "normal" includes a whole range of sexual responses, including not feeling an emotional connection during sex. So, yes, I think it's possible that some LL's don't "get it" while some HL's do.

The question I have for LL's for whom sex has nothing to do with emotional connections (well one LL in particular): Does that mean I'm free to have sex with whomever I want?
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  Oct-25 6:29 pm

C'mon, MST, we've been through this many times before. Even if sex doesn't create an emotional connection for ME (generic me), if I know that it does for YOU, then I'm putting OUR relationship at risk by giving you free rein to have sex with other people. Why is this concept so difficult for people to grasp?

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  Oct-25 7:17 pm

So the emotional connection due to sex is understood to be strong enough to make some LL's prohibit extracurricular activities for their spouse, but not strong enough to encourage them to do anything about it within the marriage. Intellectually, I understand the truth and immutability of that. Avoiding the emotional impact of that fact is what I'm struggling with.
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  Oct-25 7:29 pm

...actually, I think that the generic ME is putting his/her relationship at just as great of a risk by not putting decent to good effort into letting his/her partner enjoy sex with him/her...
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