Mismatched Libidos

Yes, I'm still confused....I still don't get LL....I was dying my hair today and I was practically walking around half naked all day  - I wear a robe so as not to wreck my clothes....I have a modest set of knockers...I weigh 108 lbs and I had on a purple and yellow bra that I THOUGHT looked inviting against my skin tone. 

My b/f just kept cleaning his room and doing his thing.  I didn't expect him to want to have sex with me because my hair STINKS when I dye it....but to say I looked sexy?  Or nice cleavage? Or look at those hooters?  Or...if your going to walk around 1/2 naked..your going to get.....something?

NOTHING.  Finally I got that he wasn't paying attention, nor did care so I stopped prancing around the house like I was CUTE or something....and shriveled back into my skin....Many depressing thoughts churning in my brain...

We did have sex last night and It was NICE...so I guess he's done for another few weeks....

I'm not HL.....I would say I am Medium....I would be good with 1 time every 2 weeks....but it is some of the other stuff I may rank HL in like the awareness of what he wears...I tell him he is sexy often...and the joking...He never talks about sex....and when the radio is on..I always feel like a HL....and he always stays quite the same...LL....He always tells me I'm sexy...but he doesn't make me feel sexy that much.....I honestly think he says it to make himself say it....like he knows its something he should be saying.....

Always:

I don't get it either - it is just the way some people are built. And, people change over time. The passion and desire that is there during the forming part of the relationship, matures - hopefully, for the better, but often towards the less frequent.

What I can tell you is that, my SO wouldn't get away with walking around 1/2 nude all day long. I would make sure she was completely nude and had me inside of her (someplace) most of the day!!!! You are the kind of girl that most guys dream of, but don't have.

THere is no-way I am going to remember ALL of that.  THat is beautiful and true...but I'm not ready to make that final call yet.  I'm not saying i'm going to wait much longer...but I do have some more learning to do....We have only been living together for 4 months.....there are still conversations to have on this topic. 

Your prespective is definetly a reality and where I am headed if I don't get the answers I like or can live with during on-going discussions.  However, I wouldn't even bring up running around partially naked and not being noticed...because it wouldn't change anything. 

I have to mull that over  a little bit...because I really don't know what kind of a past he has had.....he did tell me he was "super" horny in his earlier days and we have addressed..is it me?....is it medical?....is it him?...it appears that it isn't any of the above and just a lack of desire.  It could be depression and he has good reason to have depression.  He is currently on a new depression medication.

He is the one who mentioned Sunday that we have to TRY and FIT sex into our schedules or we are never going have the "consistency" we need to get better at it.  I thought that was great that he is THINKING that way.  He knows he is having a problem...but he is TALKING about how to make US happy.

So...definetly...I came in here because this was bothering me...so I won't be pushing it aside....I'm just not pushing away from him yet!