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I met a guy through a dating site and we had our first date this past Saturday. During a recent email conversation, I'd jokingly said something about not biting his head off and "your head and assorted body parts are perfectly safe with me, I swear" as a reference to times during our date when he seemed excessively nervous. Here was his reply: "I feel that my head and body parts are safe with you. I trust you. LOL But can you trust me? After all, you did look hot."

Is it my imagination, or does the "But can you trust me? After all, you did look hot" comment seem a little creepy? I'd really appreciate any and all feedback. Thanks!

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Just my personal opinion but your reading to much into it. You mentioned his body parts....you were being light and humorous...he reciprocated. That is all.

 

But...Im not you, you can interpret however makes you feel safest.


 
 
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My opinion: it's just a joke, and doesn't particularly mean anything. It's a riff on your "assorted body parts" reference, and not any more meaningful or more creepy than your comment was. Probably less creepy, actually, if you think about it.
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I totally agree with the last two posters. I probably wouldn't have mentioned body parts after one date but if I did and got a response in kind, wouldn't be surprised.

No creep alert for me.

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But I didn't mention any body parts in particular. My joke wasn't inherently sexually charged, while his was an allusion to rape. I'd essentially said that the entirety of his person was safe with me, while he joked about not being able to restrain himself because I was hot. I've decided that making light of rape just isn't funny and I don't like what it says about his character. I do appreciate the responses, though; they've helped me to process this exchange and decide on the best course of action for me. Thank you.
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