Online Dating

Got this Email from Cliff today:

Indeed, I was out of commission Sunday and still a little under the weather yesterday and took the day off of work. Sorry I did not get back to you.
 
I've been on match.com for 2 years and could not for the life of me get someone to actually get off their couch and go out. We would talk and chat and email and then the girls would have a headache, long lost sister come into town from Alaska (true story), have to take their daughter in college unexpectantly, and a host of other excuses. I was beginning to think there was some sort of conspiracy with a jilted ex-girlfriend from high school or Haitian curse. Anyway, I received your email a couple days after another girl and have been going out with you both. I am assured that this is perfectly "legal & acceptable" dating practice since I have not taken either relationship to the next level, but I somehow feel I am doing something wrong. I was sure that by this point you both would go running for cover. Anyway, I am going to have to postpone our dating for now. I enjoyed both our evenings and should this not work out, I would like to call you and try to catch you between your future dates.
 

I am so bummed, I had the whole weekend off and no I have no one to do nothing with.  I can't be mad because I barely new him but I sure as heck am disappointed!

Oh man, that just bites. I even felt a little stab in my heart reading his email. OLD is just so difficult when it doesn't work, so easy when it does....

I'm sorry.

That stings, especially when he basically 'chose' the other one over you. While I can appreciate him not ghosting, too, it still feels icky, I am sure.

I've had guys email "If this doesn't work out, can I call you?" and I never know what to say, but that has usually happened before I actually met the guy face to face. I never said OK, because I didn't like the idea of being a fallback girl.

Oh! Im so sorry! That sucks.

Youre right, at least he was up front. Im sorry!!!

I sent him a nice polite email, and this is part of the response I got:

Thank for understanding. I just did not want to have an awkward moment if you climb into my truck for a date in an overcoat with only lingerie underneath or start sexting me nude pictures of yourself. (apparently quite a popular thing for the kids to do according to Newsweek.).
 
PS, if you are really into that whole sexting nude pictures, go ahead and send some. A true gentleman would not try to take that from you.

I think this is his idea of humor tho' he NEVER made any comments that were remotely sexual in nature in person.  However, he never made any comments that were remotely romantic either, and there was no way he was going to get one without the other!  He was not even CLOSE to that point.  Never so much as complimented my blouse.  I just figured he was a slightly socially awkward engineer type (my town is full of engineers, they make good reliable husbands but are slow to warm up)

So I responded:

Very funny! a true gentleman would not expect free milk, either.

Now I"m thinkin I dodged a bullet but it doesn't make the loneliness any less lonely.