Online Dating

I got an email from a guy today who I have a lot in common with (this is unusual). I got kind of excited. He's the right age. So, I look through his pictures...all OK except one: it's a nude shot, taken in his bathroom mirror (the dreaded self-portrait, with a twist), but stops just north of the "danger" zone. This is so disappointing. I don't hear from that many men who I really have things in common with...WHAT'S UP WITH THE NUDE PHOTO??? I don't even like shirtless photos. The thing is, I think he's just being "funny," not necessarily trying to be sexual, but who can tell?

Part of me wants to reply and tell him he may wish to consider removing NUDE PHOTOS. Should I? I know, I know, my policy has always been "no response" and I suppose that's what I'll do.

Pffffft.

We are visual creatures and naturally think you think like us. 

Comedian Ron White has a little routine where he says "...you guys will back me up on this, once you have seen one woman naked, ...you want to see the rest of them naked."

So this guy mistakenly thinks that women think like men.  About the only thing I do know about women is that you do not think like men.

Good point. But, really, how could an intelligent man think a woman wants to see a naked picture of him before you've even meet, especially on a site like match.com (not an "adult" site)*. Honestly, would a man looking for a "serious" relationship really think a woman who posted a nude photo was serious about a relationship? Would he really?

*I can see why you would want this on an adult site--and there's nothing wrong with it if that's your thing--but I just can't see it otherwise.

The answer to your question is: he isn't intelligent or serious about a relationship.   He is thinking he needs sex.

I think you have to flip your thinking.

It sounds like you are thinking---what a shame this otherwise nice guy whom I have things in common with had the poor taste to take this photo (let alone post it)

What you should really be thinking is---Thank heaven this creepy guy was smart enough to show his true nature amongst all this other unimportant info.

LOL!

I think you've really summed it up.