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Becoming more than just a hook up

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  Oct-18 8:39 pm

I started dating this guy a few months ago and there was a really strong physical attraction so we slept together very quickly (within 24 hours of our first date). We continued to date, but our dates always turned into sex. It got to the point where we both started to wonder if that's all it was to the other person.

Finally, he said something about how we always end up naked. I replied "I know, but really do like you for more than just sex. I think you're a great guy." He said he felt the same way and asked if it would be okay if we put sex on hold for awhile. Of course I said yes.

I know the situation is a little different, but the conversation was actually pretty easy to have. Just keep it direct and short.

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  Oct-23 11:18 am

Yes, it's possible indeed!

Since it has only been two months, I'd go with a more casual approach, suggest going on real dates, eg. ask him if he'd like to have dinner with you,  go see a movie (anything that does not involve getting naked) and as hard as it seems, try not to go back to anyone's place all the time. Try it and see how he reacts to it, if he seems uninterested then you know he's only in it for the physical stuff but if he's happy to do these things with you, then you'll know once the timing is right, you'll be able to have that "conversation" with him.

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