Ask the Dating Doyenne

I actually met a guy through eHarmony (I know it sounds lame but I kind of like it in a way).  We went out on a date and he was great and we have gone out on a lot more since then.  He has been a perfect gentlemen this whole time, holding doors, he held the umbrella when I walked, has been very nice.  We both want to travel and we love hanging out.  I really like him.

Our last date was two Mondays ago.  We went to dinner near my apartment and had a great time.  Since he has been a great guy I asked if he wanted to hang out at my apartment after and just watch TV or something.  (I wasn't insinuating anything sexual at all)

We were watching TV and he got up to go and he gave me a kiss goodbye and then we continued kissing and we ended up making out (which for the record..I don't mind AT ALL). He started wanted to go further and putting his hands up my shirt, etc. and I finally stopped it and said that I don't mind making out but wanted to take things slow and didn't want to have sex.  He stopped and said that's fine, he's waited before.  We continued to make out (first mistake) and he said (and this is embarassing.lol) 'Can I touch your boob if I promise not to have sex?'.  I didn't know what to say so I just said 'Ok'. So he did, but he tried to take it further and tried to unbutton my pants and I said 'No' and he said 'We can still have fun and not have sex'.  It went a lot further than I wanted and I feel so ashamed.  I should have stopped it after the first time but it kept going.

He was going out of town a few days later for a week and a half and said he would call me when he got back.  I haven't heard from him and he got back yesterday. I was afraid of that.  I can't help but feel it was my fault for leading him on.  I made him think I wanted it and then said I didn't.  I really liked him and now I'll probably never go out with him again.  Is this my fault?

It seems your real mistake here is giving one iota of a care about a guy who actually used the phrase "can I touch your boob if I promise not to have sex".

Delete his number and find someone else who is more respectful of you and less of a child. His gentlemanly behavior is a facade.

I know that is probably would I should do.  Just delete his number and find someone else.  I had sent him an email after the date saying that I apologized if I led him on but that I really liked him and wanted it to work and didn't want to have sex so early after I had known him for a week. I had asked for his thoughts.

He wrote back and said that he had a lot on his mind and he would write me back when he got back into town.  I figure if I don't hear from him, after telling him I really like him, that he's not really worth it anyways.