Last night, DH and I packed the kids up at 11pm and drove 4 hours home from ILs. Once again, the argument was SIL. FIL keeps going on and on about how SIL's oldest DD is so horrible, yet defends these same traits in SIL. SIL gets "migraines" which coincide to when she's coming down from whatever handful of pills she's taken. The doctors...notice the plural since she has more than 1 on the go...have her on barbiturates and oxycontin which she takes faithfully as prescribed by each. In between, she takes handfuls of gravol, tylenol, ibuprofen or what ever else she fancies with wine chasers. Yesterday, at dinner, her DD started coughing which got progressively "worse" until someone gave her cough medicine...which fyi has codeine in it. Instant stoppage of the cough...never knew the medicine to work that fast. Her DD is also manipulative and narcissistic...same as SIL.
Last night, our DD#1 was telling us how SIL's DD#1 has been beating up her little sister and how nobody does anything b/c they're "just playing". She also told us how SIL's DD#2 keeps getting in trouble for things that her DD#1 keeps doing. She also told us that SIL sleeps alot. DH confronted FIL. FIL defended SIL and SIL's DD#2, and told us that our DD was lying. Our DD doesn't lie...the kid doesn't know how. DH lost it!! So what did FIL do??? He started yelling at me and calling me names. I told the girls to pack up their stuff and get in the car.
So here's where we stand...they're probably blaming everything on me. Why not!!! They have been for 20 years. I'm still debating on whether to send an email telling them that until SIL gets help for drug and alcohol addiction, and they stop enabling her, they are not welcome to contact us. I will not expose my children to the toxic relationship that they have. DH wants to call Children's Aid to get SIL's DD#2 out of the house. Other option is to call their father (he lives 1/2 a country away) but he's a whole other package of issues.
Thanks for letting me get this off my chest. I'll let you know what happens.
Love 
