Dealing with In-Laws

hello, well since the holidays are almost here, the issues are already starting to come up. well my family is going out of the country on christmas and dont come till jan 5. this means that i wont be able to spend time with them on christmas or new years. but they will however, be here in thanksgiving. heres the problem:

last year i spent all holidays with my boyfriends family, because his close to them and i decided to spend the all the holidays with him and my in-laws.

well this year my mom is going to be here in thanksgiving but not the rest of the holidays so i wanted him to spend with my family thanksgiving and i would spend the other holidays with him.

he refuses. he says that he cant leave his family and that he has to be with his family every holiday. (both family getin togther, is out of the picture) so im very upset because he is being selfish by not wanting to spend a holiday with MY family.  (we dont leave together, but he eats everyday in my house) so i think is very disrispectful for him to put his family first then anything. when he noticed i got really mad he said "ill think about it" but im pretty sure he just said that but didnt mean it, im sure  when thanksgiving comes is going to be a fight because his going to want to be with his parents.

thats not the type of person that i want to have a family with. neither my family nor i deserve for him to act like this. what do u think?????

Find a real man who will not act like a two year old child at the mere suggestion that he spend a holiday away from Mommy and Daddy.

If you plan to marry this bozo, you will have this fight every single year.

Reconsider.

well he just came to my house and i just spoke to him. and he said that he had to speak to his parents frst to see if they were planing on doing something that day, obiously i told him a month before so even if his parents are going to throw the biggest party ever , he tells them from today that he cant make it. his parents cant tell him what to do, yea they be upset, but they can suck it up for ONE holiday, the problem is him. he doesnt want to because his a mommas boy. and if he doesnt want to i cant make him. after the speech i gave him and try to talk some since into him he still said "he had to see" ,,,,,

so i told him to leave my house and that i had things to think about. i think this is really it. i just cant understand what the big deal is. how can someone be so selfish???? sorry i just wanted to vent. i really dont have anyone to talk to.

Relationships are about compromise.

He has to check with his mommy to see where he can eat Thanksgiving. Does he check with his mommy about everything?

I'd not stay with someone who has given their cajones to their mommy and she's holding onto them.