Dealing with In-Laws

Not with in-laws but with my DD. I have 5 grandchildren. Two teens live close to me, the others live far away. I was talking to my DD about her son graduating this summer.(He loves close to me) She is planning on coming here for it. I told her I would probably keep 9 year old G'daughter(Her DD) as we have tried to do this for the last 2 summers but something always happens. She yelled at me. That if I can't keep both kids then neither will stay. Ummm... I live on limited income. I have two bedrooms. One of the kids would have to sleep down stairs on the couch. I'm not comfortable with that. Her other son is 8 years old. I would really enjoy one staying. I'm not sure I could handle both. Plus I don't have a car and there would be very little for them to do. I live in a small town. There are kids that live here, but they are not what I'd want my grandkids hanging around. They cuss, fight, are just not nice.

So what do you think I should do? Stick to my guns or let both kids stay here for a couple of weeks.

Forgot to say. If they are here this summer, they will have had B'day. DGD will be 10, DGS will be 9.

hello heart,

you sound like you love your daughter and grandkids very much and you care about their feelings and who they hang out with.

try to explain your reasons to your daughter maybe she took it personally and she is not aware of your real reasons. I had the same problem with my mom when i used to live next to her ten years ago, i do not anymore. however try to talk to her and explain your reasons and see if it is possible for you to have both of them for few days at first. if that works out then maybe you can keep them for longer time as they get older.

hugs