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  5/21/2004 2:54 pm

husband has been talking to his friends on the computer about our relationship and now expects me to just sit back and let him do this to me. I want to be fair about all of this, and not take everything from him but I've never been through anything like this before. Wuold like any help and or advice I can get
 
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  5/23/2004 11:11 am

Are these friends females? What is his gripe w/ the relationship? Do you have children?

Divorce is NEVER fair--life is never fair. You have to look out for yourself in this b/c believe me, he isn't going to be looking out for you. And I promise he isn't worried a/b being "fair"...Get a good lawyer that you trust and let him/her guide you through this. Don't be a softie now or you will regret it and have it live w/ it the rest of your life, esp if you have kids.

 
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some of his friends are female and I found out yesterday that he plans on moving to baltimore because he's found someone there he plans on quiting his job at the end of the month. And then he expects to collect unemployment, but he can't if he quits. Yes we have one 15 year old and one 18 year old daughters and one 23 year old son, the 15 year old and him don't get along at all, and she was the one that over heard the converstion between husband and "female " on the phone and she was the one that told me about it. Now he's calling the kids "spys", now I need to find out what my rights are if he leaves before the divorce papers have even been filed anyone have any information that would be helpfull
 
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  6/5/2004 12:12 pm

It varies from state-to-state but in some states his leaving could constitute abandonment. You need to see a lawyer ASAP. He may think he can get out of paying any $$ by quitting but if you get a lawyer on it quickly he will be in for a unhappy surprize.

Why is he even still there??? Does he think you are running a bed and breakfast?

 
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  6/5/2004 1:56 pm

he's here because he doesn't want to find some place else to stay while we're filing the papers and he doesn't want to file the papers before we file for bankruptcy. and we're trying to do it the friendly way and not fight. But thats getting harder and harder for me also he's got to be the one paying for all of the utilities so that we can stay here until everything is final. Also I asked him what the real reason was that he didn't call one night when he was in DC and he sat in front of his computer and told me that he called every single night that he was gone and he doesn't remember a night that he didn't call. But I told him that I could get the phone records and prove to him that he did actually miss one night. And he didn't have an answer for that one and then he said that he was going to bed. But he found out yesterday that he can't get his retirement for 3 to 6 weeks after he quits his job so he can't do anything until that time.
 
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