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Rant a/b XH and GF--again

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  6/5/2004 12:25 pm

XH owes me $$ and claims he can barely make ends meet. A long story and I'm working on that part but now...DSs let it slip that XH and GF are house-hunting AND they are looking at fairly pricey homes--more than he can afford. His parents are buying it in their names (he filed Chap 7 2 yrs ago) and he will pay "rent". Even so, he can't afford that kind of house payment (I know how much he makes). Then I find out that they need a "big" house--cuz guess why??? So, that explains how HE is going to make that housepayment--GF will be living there also w/ her DS. Still...I can't figure out how he plans to afford this...and yet he is so freaking cheap and stingy that he won't pay his half of DSs expenses as he agreed to--claiming poverty but he's looking at houses that I couldn't afford and I make double what he does. And GF doesn't make that much either.

And I know she is going to live there b/c he is looking in areas he would NEVER live in otherwise.

So my DSs and I are living in a very modest home that I could afford on my own and he is going to be in a very nice home as large as the marital home we had (which I had to sell).

How the hell does he come out on top??? His parents never gave us crap when we were married...too selfish (they are loaded). They refuse to pay the $$ that he owes me. (it's his responsibility they say)

It's just pissing me off.

 
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  6/5/2004 4:02 pm

dear girlfriend, it is strange, huh?? but not unusual. take it easy...

It's not a secret that poverty is more the lot of divorced women than of divorced men.

Best of luck for the future - and take good care of yourself. No-one does otherwise.

 
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  6/7/2004 11:52 am

I understand that it is frustrating, but you can't let things that you have no control over run your life. There could be a thousand reasons why he is looking at a pricey house - or he may be just looking with no intention to buy. You can't always take a child's story at face value. Sometimes I know we go look at houses just to see how the "other side" lives, and dream about winning the lottery! You just can't worry about what other people do or don't do - it serves no purpose other than to make yourself miserable.

If he is not paying his child support, file a contempt of court charge. That is all you can do about that for now. If he continues to not pay, have it ordered through the Bureau of Child Support Enforcement and they will do whatever it takes to get him to pay (seize tax refunds, drivers' licenses, etc.). And quite frankly, his parents have no responsibility to pay his arrears - I can't say I blame them for that.

 
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