discussion title:
want some feed-back
want some feed-back about STBX, we're trying to do the divorce without attorneys, so that we don't have to spend to much money. He's still staying at the house so that he doesn't have to support three house-holds. Oh yeah by the way he's supporting the woman that he's leaving me for that he met on the computer. He also has been talking to her while I'm sittng in the living room and not supposed to say anything about it. We got into an arguement last night about it when I asked him to have a little respect for me while I'm here he just started yelling at me but he had been drinking all afternoon and evening so he didn't care that I was here. Also I was writing to my mom back in michigan to see if Me and my two girls could come back there after the divorce is final because I don't want to stay in the town where we have lived for the last 15 years beause of the type of work he has done He has a bad reputation and I don't want to find anyone thats been in the prison system. But she told me that she doesn't want us to come back there so we now have no family to rely on or for support, but there is a close friend of the family that I've been e-mailing that has been supportive and has been letting me talk to her. Sorry that this is so long but needed some advice, thanks for any advice.
discussion title:
want some feed-back
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5815.2 in response to 5815.1
I hear you and your need to economize, but sometimes the money you save costs you too many other things, like your dignity, the size of your child support and alimony. Your babies and you can get majorly (you pick a word). I bet he was the one who decided to not hire attorneys.
My experience is that from the legal date of separation (the day you split and resolve not to work on the marriage anymore), then all your assets and debts are your own. So you don't have to support this OW and her family. You don't have to have this man in your home. You also have to have a job and support the family.
Ask your family friend if she can give you some practical help, like three to six months shelter while you get a job and find your own apartment.
Another reason to get an attorney is that you may not be able to leave the state with your children. These things vary from state to state.
I'm sorry that you're going through all this. Take it minute by minute and hang in there. You'll land on your feet.
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