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Sep-16 2:45 pm

I have been married for 10 years and in the 10 years my husband has thrown things, broken things, pushed me against a wall and put his fist to my face, busted car windows with his fist, some of this has not been directed at me.He has also been arrested for aggrivated assault (not against me) and is on probation for that. He is not supposed to have any guns, or drink alcohol. He has continued to do both. I am in the process of saving money so that I can leave. I am also trying to attend a support group. The counselor said I should tell probation officer he has a gun and drinking but He knows I am the only one that knows about the hand gun. So the only way I can take the gun is have everything packed and take the gun when I leave. What is so bad is that he can actually be a fun and nice person.

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Oct-8 11:05 am

He may be fun and a "nice" person but what if he decides to use that gun against you or someone else?
My ex-fiancé raped me with a gun in the bed-room and a pillow over my head so no one could hear my screams. All around his bed on the floor there were porn magazines.
He wants to you keep quiet that's why he told you his little secret like my "abuser" did...he also had a gun he said in his closet...I never saw it but believed it was there...and the time he held me against my will it was in plain sight and he used it to intimidate me..."shut" me up.
I left and have never gone back.
No matter how much fun or how "nice" they "seem" they are neither.
My heart goes out to you.
What he has done and is doing to you is wrong and I hope you can find the courage to just get out.
Don't worry about saving money.
Your life is too precious and is to be cherished.
It's great that you are getting counselling but the ONLY way to be safe is to be away from him.
You are in my thoughts and my prayers.
~hugs~
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Oct-8 1:08 pm

Yes I know you r right. Every time I think about him being nice I remind myself of him demanding me to go with him and buy that gun. He actually made me brake the law and lied to me and said that he can get the gun in his name in one year. However when I found his probation papers it says 11 years probation and two years have gone by. I am trying to plan what would be the safest thing when I leave because he will be very angry. I will go into a shelter for 30 days so he can't find me but it may put my family in harms way if he goes and looks for me. I have seen him do so many many mean things when he is mad.

I am sorry to hear what you went thru and hope you r safe now.

Thank you for sharing.

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Oct-8 9:31 pm

~hugs~
Thank-you...I know it's not easy and I understand being worried and concerned about others.
A shelter would be safe. I understand you are wondering about how he will react.
He is going to be mad irregardless and that is not your fault.
If there are concerns for family members or friends safety they can also report him.
You are in my thoughts and my prayers....I am glad you have a plan.
Take care...hope it all works out well for you.
It was hard but I am so glad I did it...