you are here: iVillage Love Love message boards Recognizing & Dealing w/ Domestic Abuse  / Surviving & Having Fun  / 

Recognizing & Dealing w/ Domestic Abuse

139120 messages posted to this board
find messages about   
welcome!
 
discussion title:
 

Somthing Just For Me

emoticon:
 emoticon
message #:
  28882.1
replies:
  3
from:
date:
  Sep-17 10:41 am

A couple of days ago I realized that I couldn't remember the last time I did something just for me, by myself. After a little deliberation I decided I wanted to get my hair cut, I wanted bangs. So, I go and get my hair cut, something my ex was very against (he wanted me to have long bleach blonde hair, not something I wanted, but I was trying to do it for him). I got my hair trimmed and layered (it's a little above my shoulders), and I got some side swept bangs. Yeah... the bangs looked SO horrible on me, and I was pretty bummed. On my way home, I felt like driving through the back roads, I was upset about my  hair in a "spilled milk"-"straw that broke the camel's back" kind of way and I started crying. So, I pull onto this paved back road, a straight shot, no cars behind me, no cars in front of me. I took a deep breath, turned up the radio and floored it. I got my little '92 Corolla up to about 90 miles an hour and it felt really good, it was amazing. My tears turned into a smile, and by the end of my joy ride I was busting out laughing (not to mention I was listening to I've Got Friends in Low Places). Something about making a decision on a whim and not thinking about it was just wonderful. Oh, and when I got hime I found a way to style my hair that makes the bangs look good. All in all, it was a great day!!

It just got me to wondering, what was the last thing you ladies have done just for you? Something crazy or just plain indulgent that didn't need to be done, but something you simply wanted to do?

I think a lot of times we got too used to giving our lives to other people that we sometimes forget about ourselves and "me time".

discussion title:
 

Somthing Just For Me

emoticon:
 emoticon
message #:
  28882.2 in response to 28882.1
replies:
  3
from:
to:
date:
  Sep-21 11:05 pm


Hi there,

Thanks for posing this question. I think it is an important question for us as women to reflect on. Personally, I've gotten much better at doing things just for me even if they are the tiniest things. For example this weekend, I pretty much demanded that I have the house to myself on Sunday. I absolutely hate football and with football season in full swing, my DS and DBF watch sports all day, make messes in the kitchen and just irritate me to no end. I planted the seeds in their minds to go watch football with their friends and I had a lovely, quiet and peaceful day of watching whatever I wanted to watch on TV and not hearing anything at all when I didn't want to watch. It was great. I'd love it if they'd do it every weekend!

Thanks,
Sky

discussion title:
 

Somthing Just For Me

emoticon:
 emoticon
message #:
  28882.3 in response to 28882.2
replies:
  3
from:
to:
date:
  Oct-10 11:54 pm

So would a nap count? rofl - no I started taking a graduate class. Since I have my children full time, I don't get alot of me-time anymore - so I had to orchestrate it. I have also added playing on an adult soccer league - and since I their kids are with their father - I can hang out with the girls later in the evening. I am enjoying the moments of quiet that I get more than anything else and I never underestimate the power of a good night's rest.
Change the number of messages
displayed on this page in
Indicate your interest in the discussion
   
Get updates to this discussion
delivered by email