Recognizing & Dealing w/ Domestic Abuse

Hi, I posted on this board before about a guy I had been dating casually for about 2 years who was verbally abusive.  I blocked his number 2 months ago and I really thought that was the last I would hear from him. 

But now he's calling me from a pay phone because I blocked his cell phone number.  He calls me very late at night from a pay phone and I haven't answered yet because I know it's him and I don't know what to say to him.

I guess I'm still very physically attracted to him and I'd like to see him but I don't want to put up with the abuse.

I just wanted your opinion on if a guy like this can change.  He was married for 10 years before I met him and he says that he treated his wife really good but I've never talked to her.  I just think that if he managed to keep a marriage going for 10 years there must be something good about him.  Maybe I'm wrong?

What steps should I take if I start dating him again?  Should I ask him to go to counselling or do u think he'll stop the verbal abuse now that he knows that I will leave?  He has also bit me, pulled my hair, etc., which was more sexual than abusive I think.

Any advice would be appreciated.

RUN AS FAR AND AS FAST AS YOU CAN!

There are other attractive men out there. Forget this loser!

Hurting you during sex is also abuse!

Women stay married to abusive men for 10 years because they believe they don't deserve any better after their self-esteem is destroyed.

Don't answer the phone. Block that pay phone number also, if you can. Better yet, get a second phone and give that number only to people who treat you well. Unplug the other one from the wall. He won't go hunting for a new number if he thinks your current one is still connected.

Book recommendation: The Gift of Fear by Gavin DeBecker.

Don't get caught up in the "helping him change" trap. Not worth it! Almost never works.

Trust your gut! RUN! Get away!!!

you are so right!!!!!  I finally answered the phone and I told him that I don't want to see him anymore and that he didn't treat me good and I'm looking for a man who will treat me right.  He got really mad and started telling me to go f___ myself and other nasty names.

These guys don't ever change...I'm blocking the phone booth number and I'm definitely staying far away from him.  Thanks for the advice.