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I didn't make it out..

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  Oct-29 1:57 pm

Im a coward.

There is nothing good about me. People hate me. I am too "negative". Im a big fat [they dont are about the steroids for health or glandular problems] slug that no one has any respect for. My years in my old town of working class people where people actually talked to me like a human being once in a while are so far in the distance. I hate this town.

I tried to get out. I erased the details on here. I get tired reading what I went through. All the cold people I had to deal with. People do not care anymore. The people here have no emotions.



Edited 10/30/2009 1:53 pm ET by bugmenot
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  Oct-29 7:34 pm

Many of us on this board have been worried about you, you seemed to drop off the face of the earth and we were very worried.

I am sorry you have not been able to find a way out yet, I am glad he is, at least for now, making an effort by going to counseling and at least trying to use the tools they are giving him with controling his anger.

I finally graduated with my bachelors in Criminal Justice but right as I graduated the economy took the nose dive and they are laying off probation officers, not hiring them. So I am still volunteering at the probation office, looking for what opportunities are out there.

Mean while I am now back in school, I am working on my masters in counseling and in searching for a practicum to do, I have stumbled on the Joy House. I think it would be really cool if I could help with the group sessions at a dv house, with the knowledge I have and what you all have shared with me of your experiences. I have an interview next Thursday, I will let you all know if I get it.

anyway, I am glad you are still safe, and hope you can stay safe and "he" will grow up and start doing things the way he needs to do them rather than the route a 2 year old would handle the situation.

Kat

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  Oct-30 1:56 pm

I dont expect anything of him. He is evil and has no conscience and I was blind to what he was until 2 years ago.

I hope your career goes well. and you can get a job. Please help the disabled, none of these other social workers cared. I am a stranger to everyone. No one cares about me.

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  Oct-30 2:14 pm

hi bugmenot..i wanted to reply to you also when I saw your original note. No, you are not a coward. You are brave and you do have a lot of strength. I can understand exactly what you are going through. You are dependent on the abuser for basic needs and you have challenges at this point. Dont know what the solution is..maybe like someone said, keep pounding on all doors until an avenue opens up. All I can say is don't put yourself down. You are brave and strong and courageous. Hope you find a way somewhere. But you are right, the court system, the resources are all just hogwash..and at the end of the day, if the physical abuse is just not proven, there isn't much court can do. So many moms are just dealing with custody fights and such and we all know why we don't leave. None of us are cowards..we just have to get there the best way that works for us.
I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs.
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  Oct-31 11:34 am

Oh bugmenot (((((Hugs))))) I'm so glad to see a post from you, though I saw it late and didn't get to read it before you edited.  I just wanted to tell you you have been in my thoughts all this time and I have prayed you have been able to remain safe.  I'm so very sorry you have not been able to find the help and assistance you need in order to get out of this relationship, but please do not quit trying.  I agree with the others I do not see you as a coward!  You have kept fighting and hanging on despite the roadblocks you have encountered.  I will continue to keep you in my thoughts and pray that you will find the assistance you need to get out.  In the meantime, please don't give up you deserve so much better.  If I see anyone as a coward it is those in the position to help you who turn the other way and do not.  Keep fighting (((((hugs)))))
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