Cyber-Cheating & Emotional Affairs

My life right now is good.  I have a wonderful, loving supportive husband.  My kids are great kids.  We are happy.  No issues, no complaints but...

I recently reconnected with a guy I dated in college.  He said he has always googled me over the years, but I have been married for a while so he couldn't find me...until FB.  We were catching up via the FB inbox and I had this insane emotional rush.  It took me like a week to get him off of my mind. 

We would catch up like 2X a year and then last month he IMed me and we went back and forth on IM for like 3 hours.  We mostly were just catching up but he definitely threw some flirty/sexual references in the convo as well.  Of course it takes me another week to stop thinking about him. Since then we've had 3-4 more IM convos where we talk life in general and about our current sex lives with our partners and our past sex life together.  In the middle of these he always says that if we were ever in the same place he wouldn't have a problem being strictly platonic...the problem is I don't know if I could!!

I have friends and family in his city and he always says that when I visit he would love to see me and meet my family.  The past few times I have avoided seeing him and he asked why.  I told him he was someone I'm not sure if I ever got over and I didn't know if we could see each other and just be friends or if I would still be attracted to him.  He once again assured me that it would never be a problem.

So now I'm visiting my friend in his city next month.  I'm going without my family and we've made plans to go to lunch or dinner, but I'm not sure if I should??

You should quit while you are ahead and before your good husband gets wind of this and decides to take the kids and leave....right?

If you really have a good marriage, this will devastate your marriage.  If you are done with it and are subconsciously trying to blow it up, this is a good fuse.

This can't end well.  Think about it.  If you get more attached, then what?  If you see him and he says the spark isn't there, or moves on, and you are developing feelings, then what?  All not good.  Like playing Russian Roulette with a six shooter with 6 bullets in the chambers.  Don't become the kind of person that so many posters write about in "surviving my spouse's affair".....