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Edited 11/3/2009 10:51 am ET by harriet2009
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It seems to me if you don't really fancy him and don't want anything outside of your marriage, then you really just enjoy the attention he gives you. Maybe you are attracted to him for reasons that are not physical. I think this is really normal, as long as you stay on friendly terms. I've learned that we will be attracted to and attract other people during our lives, even if we are married, but we have to make decisions accordingly. I am in an EA right now and I don't really want to be, I love my H and find him attractive, he's a good H, etc. But it is the "new" feeling when someone else starts giving you that attention that can get to you. This man sounds like a nice person, maybe he fancies you and you know this so that is what is attracting you to him and keeping him in your thoughts.
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Hi there,

I think you're attracted to her personality, manners, and perhaps way of talking. I lived in your country and I can imagine a head teacher must be good in his speech to become a head teacher, and educated Brits are really good with their language. But it could be none of this. There was a woman in our circle of friends who was attracted to me and was around me more than usual (I didn't even notice it until my wife told me). The funny thing was that I didn't even like her, and there were things about her that annoyed me, so I was sometimes impolite to her in front of her husband and everybody, but it only made her more interested!

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