EAS

Hi,

I dont normally post on this board but I read all the time here I noticed your post and just felt for you because I think we all know how you feel.  First that is the reason why they say to go NO CONTACT I know how tempting it can be to send off a text but if you do that you are opening yourself up to anything including hurt.  There are no rules in an affair.  My XAP used to alwas say he would never hurt me ha ha!  That was the biggest lie he told me next to he was flying his plane over my house but couldnt land because of problems with something.  These men really are messed up just by him saying you are causing him stress what a baby.  I mean really just shows how selfish he is by saying that.

What I suggest you do is block his texts - then you dont ever have to deal with him again.  I know I had a huge problem with doing that I would block, unblock it was stupid but the bottom line is you have to go NO CONTACT and it is ok to grieve.  It takes time to get over things.  I know that it does get easier each day and you will get your old self back.  Thats probably the worst part of an affair how much of ourselves we loose.  I never wanna go back there.  I am FAR TOO GOOD FOR THAT and so are you.

Hugs

Jen

Hurt

Okay on my phone you go into messages, then message settings, text messages and block number.  Im sure every phone is different but it gives you an idea.  Call your service provider and ask if it can be done from their end if you cant figure it out on your phone.

Ya goals, self esteem and self worth are way better then waiting around for a man who really when you get down to it you wouldnt want to be with him for the long haul.  When I am feeling uncertain and missing him (because I wont lie there were good things bout him) I just think of reality.  Reality is Id never want to be married to that man - a man who is selfish, constantly lies, plus he is a cheater NOT that I beat him out on that one considering I cheated on my husband as well but in the end these guys really are just plain users, manipulators and they are the losers!

PS.  Also block his calls Im pretty sure all phones allow you to do that on my phone when I put them on my reject list they go straight to my voice mail and can leave a message but at least you can delete it without listening to it.  Also dont pick up and numbers or private numbers.  These guys have a habbit of contacting you when things are going a little bit stale in their relationships and your moving on doing well out of the blue they will call or text and it will just put you back to square one.  They are so NOT WORTH IT!