Em, that's a great lesson and great story too.
Ok, what lies did I tell ? hmm...
I Love You, I adore You. - For about the first 2 years, I thought I did. Then I had to find some way to back pedal and get out of it. Lies or fog ? Dunno
I lied when I said I can't see you because of ____ (insert a myriad of excuses) Often just the efforts to see him were not worth it. Or I lied and said H was home when he was really half way across the world. I just wanted some alone time.
I lied about being able to keep up with him on a mountain hike. I made it, but it was tough afterwards.
I lied about enjoying sex with him. Way, way too much (for me) to be enjoyable. It was all about what he had to prove to himself. I lied about orgasms just to get him to stop :-)
I lied when I told him how handsome he was. He's not. I'd never look at him or even give him a second look if I were single.
I lied when I pumped him up full of compliments. What was I thinking.
Actually, I was lying to myself during the entire affair. We fed off each other's lies which were born to feed our fantasies.
I'm guessing he did the same. I know he lied to me about not having time for me. He had to of lied about it. No one is as busy as he said, he's just not that important.
I feel he lied to me about how he yells my name from mountain tops. Come on - who does that? I think he lied to me about a lot of little things in his life, but on the flip side of that, he was very open and brutally honest. Go figure.
I think he really wanted me for sex, when he said over and over that wasn't the case. He said he loved me so often I began to question that.
I guess he lied to me about his wife. He wasn't attracted to her sexually, so he said. She's not ugly, in fact he thought she was beautiful. But he had issues with her in bed. Used me to prove his ability to attract other women - ???
I think he believed his own lies.
Love 
