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1st situation:

background - i was friends with this girl in my grammar school years. when we got to HS, we kind of lost touch...then out of nowhere, she started prank calling my house, telling me to stay away from her boyfriend etc.

present - this girl recently contacted via myspace. i was curious to see how she was doing, so i accepted her friend request. we exchanged messages, and she suggested that maybe we can meet up.

what happened was 10+ yrs ago, when we were kids. but i don't know how i feel about meeting up with her. i don't mind communicating via online though...

 

2nd situation:

a different person from my grammar school years & i became friend on facebook. last we spoke was during HS then lost touch with each other so i was excited to see a friend request from her. but when i sent her a message to catch up, her response was "kim, i don't really want to catch up". that was harsh, and brought tears to my eyes because it hurt me. i keep wishing things were different, that she'd want to talk to me and i cant get the situation out of my head.

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Um, first friend I would keep it online and impersonal until you are certain she outgrew her hs behaviors. You don't need her drama in your life.

The second one baffles me. She requested you, yet shuts you down when you want to catch up?? Maybe she is going thru a tough time in her life and didn't realize how harsh that comes off. IDK what to do about her, except let time take care of it.
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Hi Kim! I agree with Pam on the 1st friend. As to the 2nd friend? That's crazy! I know when I first got on FB, I was struck by all the "friend collectors" out there. She seems to me to be a collector for her page and not interested in being a real friend. IMHO, if you only want true friends on your page, I would delete or ignore her. It's awful you had to go through this - hugs!


  
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boo!

Sorry you're dealing with drama...

I agree with the Pam and Kelli...

Keep the one just online for now

and I'd delete your friend collector!

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