Relationships in Our 20s

It is possible that he's interested but just really busy with his job or something but if you're interested and want to continue hanging out with him, why not call him?

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hey this sounds like the kind of thing many of my relationships go through, the weird beginning stage ... u just don't know what he's doing.  best thing to do is find other men to date simultaneously while he's playing his little games.

This is just my opinion, but he sounds like he is only semi interested. In my experience, a guy that is interested makes the effort to call you and see you. He makes definite plans because he doesn't want to run the risk that some other guy is going to take your available time. I've never had to call a guy that was interested in me at the beginning of a relationship. He calls me, I go out when I'm available (and I tell him when that will be, not leaving him guessing or anything) and I make plans in advance.

It sounds like a game on my part, and I guess it kind of is, but it works. If a guy called me for last minute plans I would not accept, usually because I already had something planned anyway (even if it's a plan I made with myself).

I think that texting him and saying "you don't seem interested anymore to I'll just ttyl" comes across as immature and passive aggressive. That would definitely put me off if I received a message like that. If you want to call him, then call him and be confident about that decision. Don't try to convince him to call you; he will if he wants to.

I know the book has become a modern cliche, but I recommend reading He's Just Not That Into You. The book truly has been on the mark in my dating experience, which has been more extensive than average.

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"so I texted him the next night and told him hey it doesnt rly seem like you are interested in hanging out anymore so ill just ttyl."

This was your mistake. It sounds desperate and like you're pushing him to do more than he was. If I were you I'd just let it go. If he wants to be with you then he will make the effort to re-start things but if you push from here it will just seem more desperate.