Relationships in Our 20s

An old college friend, has came back into my life after being MIA for 2-years.   I got a facebook message from an old guy-friend he wanted to see me. We never met up until he showed up at my job (he works across the street), he said he just wanted to say "hi", we talked for 2-hours about old times hanging out. After he left he texted me "your still a cutey". Halloween we after he got off of work i texted him did he want to come over and watch bad horror movies, he said sure. He stayed at my house from 11-4am, we chatted and watched movies. When he leaves he always asked for a hug. We agreed we were just friends and nothing more. The next night he came over and stayed from 9pm-4am, we talked alot more about what he was up to in those 2-years. He said he moved away to Ohio went to college there and came back.

The 2nd night was the most arkward. I sat on my couch and he sat on the other side of the couch, there were pillows in between us. I noticed the pillows began disappearing and he was arms length away from me. From time to time, he would touch my arm, my hand and touch my knee. He would look over at me and i would not make eye contact. As I was playing with his cell phone, he sat closer and just looked at me, he smiled and we laughed and i told him he was being a werido. I started feel very uncomfortable and began texting a friend. As he was leaving he asked for a hug, i hug him but he wanted it to go on a little longer than i expected.

To me it seems like your friend is interested in more than friendship. If that's not something you want, then I agree with your friend's advice to only hang out with him in group settings and in public. Don't hang out with him alone, late at night and in your apartment; in my opinion, doing that sends a signal that you are open to more because that is simply not how I hang out with any of my friends.

Think about what you really want, and then convey that to your friend. He probably didn't call or text right away because he feels a little rejected or confused. I'm sure it can be cleared up, regardless..

This is just a personal pet peeve of mine, but not going out with a person you are interested in because you're worried about getting hurt or ruining a friendship just doesn't make sense to me. Yeah, you may screw up your friendship with this guy if it doesn't work out, but you haven't even seen him in the last two years. What if it DID work out? When it comes to dating and relationships we are always taking a risk. Nothing is guaranteed. But, if we never try anything because we're worrying about a future problem, we'll never know if we could have something special, either. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Whatever happens, you will get over it, you will live, and you will probably be a stronger person as a result. To me, if I am interested in someone and they're interested in me, it is worth the risk to see if it could be something great. But, of course, that is just me.

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