Guy Talk

Hello, I've posted before on other boards once in awhile, but am no closer to having any answers to the dilemmas in my life.  Brief history: I do not feel in any way that I've had any success with men in my life at all. Never had a first love at 16 like a lot of other people have, never had a true love in my life, and have never had any man show me any type of long term affection.  I am now 42 and these are the things I have going for me: I know I am pretty. I am a sweet good-natured person. I have a love for life and for people. I have recently lost weight and have shed 50 lbs. These are some other things: I am 5'8" and weigh 230 lbs. But I wear it very well and am very proportional. I have a nice figure when I am thinner.

Anyway, what is the problem for me? Why don't I have love from men? Why am I not noticed most times? I am 42 but look very young. People often think I am as young as 25. I am confused, and when I see men with women who are either very unattractive, or unappealing in personality, at least from my point of view, it confuses me even more. I find that as I get older, this is not getting any clearer to me. I really need help figuring this out.  Please, if you are interested in giving me some clear-cut answers, I'll be happy to answer most questions and maybe I can get some clue into the male mind. Thank you so much.

Hello, thank you for answering. No, lately I really feel like I get very little attention from any man. It sort of goes against nature, doesn't it? Anyway, it doesn't feel very good that you are (or at least you feel like you are) the only woman on earth who gets no attention.

I will try to go get an image makeover. I am not necessarily talking about outside appearance as much as maybe my walk, the message I am giving. Like I said, no clue why this is the way it is for me. Any other suggestions would be great. Thank you.