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I just get confused about how I can know whether my bf has another girl at the same time? It does not mean he has, I just wanna know generally how to know it. Honestly, I really do not like such kind of thought, cz I know I should have spent the time thinking for such thing in other meaningful and happy things, such as gym, dancing, hang out with friends... Yet I still wanna know the answer to it. Ppl here always talk about Trust, however, I think ppl are changing, surroundings are chaning, it is not easy to find a 100% trust in today's world. What do u guys think?
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You're right that people talk about trust!  That's because if you don't trust your partner, then it's a bad relationship.

Why are you worried?  Do you not trust your boyfriend?  And if not, why not?  Has he ever given you reason to not trust him? 

Most men CAN be trusted......they're not all liars and cheaters.  But, if you don't trust him, then it's not a good relationship, and maybe you should move on.

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You need to trust your gut instinct, theyre usually right...I learned that the hard way...Good luck!
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It's never been easy to find 100% trust. But it is necessary for a good relationship.

I'm not sure there are easy answers to your questions. IMO the thing to do is assume he's being faithful unless you have reason to think otherwise (secretive, caught lying, etc)

 

 

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Thanks for ur reply!

I usually meet my bf 2 or 3 times a week, and we call each other everyday 2 times or so. I know usually guys do not like talking on phone for long time, so I usually talk with him about 15 mins. These days I feel sometimes he just talked with me around 5 mins. I know sometiems it is cz he was really busy. but this situation happened a few times, so I really do not feel well.

Yesterday morning we talked about 5 mins on phone, he said he had to to finish his quiz. So I said no problem. Then at night when he finished his job and be back home, he said he actually did not finish it this morning, so he had to start doing it again immediately, and would call me when he finished. I said OK. He started doing it around 10:15 pm. Then at 12:00 I called him cz I think even if he did not finish it, he had no chance cz the quiz due date was yesterday. Yet he turned off his cell phone. I felt so strange and a bit mad. So I went to Skype, and saw he left a messsage at 12:03 am, asking whether I was sleeping or not. So we talked on skype for 5 mins cz i know he had to wake up so early next day.

I dont know whether i m too sensitive. yet I do not feel good, cz he said he would call me after quiz, and even if no call, why turned off cell phone? and he left a message on skype, it is really a bit funny!! How come he know I am on skype? what about if i do not go to skype. If I were him and said would call sb, I will just pick up my phone to call, why bother skype which is not sure ?

I dont know, I try ot make myself not focusing on small stuff, cz small stuff will damage any relationships. I really do not know whether he really loves me as he said.

Thanks.

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