Life After Betrayal

This weekend is a year since dday. It’s not a day that we want to put a ring around or really recall at all and hopefully by this time next year it may not even cross our minds.

Neither my H or i ever expected to live this nightmare ... to have to try and sort through the pain, confusion and trauma of the last 12 months.

I don’t need to tell anyone here how hard and lonely this all is. We’ve each needed space and time to deal with it from both sides, and there has been more than one occasion when one or the other of us has scanned the ‘rental’ pages and seriously contemplated packing our bags. But as we see-sawed back and forth there has always been one of us prepared to hold on and not ready to let go.

So somehow, through a lot of work and certainly a lot of tolerance on my Hs part ... we are still here - together. We are home not just in body but also in mind and slowly the soul seems to be finding its way back into our relationship.

So i just want to say thank you to everyone for their support and some incredibly important words of advice. And more than anything for giving me a safe place to express how i was feeling and to know that I was not alone in the battles that i had. There aren’t many places to go as a WS where others simply ‘get it’.

We’re not ‘there’ yet ... but we are definitely closer

Thanks is truly an understatement

gr8,

It is so wonderful to read your update. I am glad that things are going well with you.

You are a wonderful woman and it sounds like your H is pretty awesome too. I am glad that the soul is coming back into your marriage.

I hope that you will keep us updated.

Steph

gr8,

I am so happy for both you and your H.  It is definately a hard road, but it seems that you have figured out a way to navigate it.

Congratulations!! :-)

My best,
SC

Hi Gr8 -

It is so wonderful to read your update - I'm sure your post will give others hope for their own situations - to know that by working together - and with love - you CAN get through the muck and start living again.

So happy for you both - hugs!!

Lynn ;)

Oh honey,

Time passes...and here you are.  Still together.  Still fighting to make it better.  Still hanging in there.  That's a beautiful thing.  :)

You know that I've always been one of your biggest fans, and that I always had faith that you would not just survive - but thrive.  And while I know that there is no real celebration of an anniversary like this - I'm happy that you made it this far.

Keep on keeping on.  Here's to brighter days.  :)

Oh.  And btw?  Thank YOU Gr8.  For being so willing to share your journey here.  I know it isn't always easy, but you've made a difference in more lives than you realize.

Hugs, and much love to you -

Kim