Life After Betrayal

well I have been saying hurtful things to my H just after discovery - not sure if this can be classified as that? (he sure does say i said those things for revenge etc).  really that was more for me getting rid of my pain (I think)..

i believe the best revenge is living well and not wasting any time on things like actual revenge.. I care more about my daughter and myself for that :).

well also i have all of our assets.. after DD1 we agreed that if he contacts her again i and my daughter will have everything and he will be left with nothing. and he did. probably the most expensive blowjob in history he he. not sure of this - is this revenge?

Im not sure I would call it revenge but is was a major Shake up in his happy affair Fantasyland.

When I discovered that he was still in his affair, I plotted for a month just how I was going to let him know I was DONE. It was very hard prentending that I knew nothing but all the while I was arranging for confrontation day.

I made secret reservations for myself and daughter to leave for a minivacation. So when the day came, I was all packed and ready. I had written a  letter that he would come home to after work telling him I knew everything and he was free to have the woman of his dreams. I demanded that he not call or text me and that I would be gone for four days and expected him to be gone when we got back.

Now, I knew this was NOT the woman of his dreams at all, by the way, as I had read a month of texts between them. Oh you should have heard his voice messages to me, crying,sobbing, blah blah blah!!!