Hi everyone, Im in a dilema and need some help to sort out a situation with my Boyfriend, we are both in our early 40's and both been married and divorced...... been with him 6 months now and most of the times I argue with him because of problems that bothers me alot, he was married and have been divorced 3 months now,the problem is my BF is in a really bad financial situation because most of his earnings goes towards a loan he took to help build and furnish the house he was living with his ex wife, I have been going on at him to ask the court to sort out his assets so he can get something from his ex wife, she has the house and everything and he is still paying for a portion of the loan, that amounts to over half of his salary, he does not seem to care and this always brings up arguments between me and him.He seems to think im overeacting and wants to create problems.He thinks because i have a good job and earn more then him, why do i complain?????
I have to pay for everything, gas, elec, water, he never takes me out cause he dont have any money left at the end of the month when he has paid his debts, im getting very bitter about this situation and he thinks that because i love him then i have to understand his predicaments, He spends most of his time at my house and we practically live together, since his divorce he has been living with his mum and sister, his sister tells me he cant afford to pay his mum housekeeping.. at my house im paying the rent, and my adult son helps me with shopping,my boyfriend dont seem to see a problem in that cause he goes to me if he wasnt in my life i would still have to cook, pay rent blah blah blah......
I feel so down, I am away on holidays at the moment and yesterday i called him and had this really bad argument with him, i ended up telling him to go back to his ex wife because she is the one that benefit from all his money and I am the one that is doing everything for him, I have no social life with him, we cant even enjoy normal things couples do..when i try talking to him to tell him that he needs to sort out his assets he goes to me not to put pressure on him and that he will sort it out soon, but nothing is done, his ex keeps calling him whenever she pleases if she needs more money for their child, its life the money he gives is never enough for her even though she knows his situation, my bf can never tell her no, but he can say no to me and i have to understand otherwise he thinks im problematic..
I really dont know what to do anymore, I feel really down, any advice will be helpful, i have never been in this situation before.
Love 
