Hi,
To make a long story short...I am in a relationship with a guy I met over a year ago,absolutely love this guy and I am in love with him,but I'm now thinking I'm in love with a man who is not right for me.He says he love's me as well.I have met his friends kids and spoke to his folks over the phone(they live in mn).He has discussed his finances,work,investments etc with me always asks me for my opinion etc.We have both been married twice before have kids,mine are 19 and 15years and study overseas,his are 15 and 9 and he has joint custody of them both and they both have different moms.We are both in our early 40's,I'm financially independent and economically more solid then he is,which he always knew.We have both been very open and honest with each other,he did tell me when we started dating that his ex girlfriend has been stalking him even though they broke up 6 months before we met and they were dating on an doff for about 8 months before that,he has shown me some of her text messages,voice mails & emails,but never shown me what his responses were to that.For the past 6 weeks I have noticed him being unavailable,not calling back,all my calls go to his vm and even canceling a couple dates for which he says his problem child is having a bad day.On the days when he does not have his kids he wants to just chill by himself or hang with friends,which is ok,but I travel a lot for work and co incidentally can meet only on the weekends, I have in the past chose not to take on a couple of assignments at work just so I could spend a day with him seeing as how hectic his schedule was,this was not a problem until 6 weeks ago.He started talking about a woman who was hitting on him at his gym and also mentioning / noticing aloud how good looking some women are etc.I did tell him that no matter how confident a gal was she still wouldn't like to hear her man talk like that about other girls,period! Even though I was invited to join a couple of his buddies and their girlfriends for dinner a couple weeks ago he chose not to take me along,he let slip latter that I was invited but glossed over that conversation.I had a tough day at work early last week and he knew about it and I was wanting to just talk to him over the phone about but inspite of my vm's he didn't call me back.I finally left a message that I was very hurt by his lack of support and things have been crazy since then,he did apologies in a vm and said he would call me and yes we have spoken over the phone and I made myself very clear.I have told him time and time again I am not with him for his$$$$ or wanting a ring on my finger or wanting to move in but I would like him to be emotionally available,I do not expect to be attached at the hip with him but then again how much space is too much space? Is he wanting out??? I did ask him and he says NO! but he also says he is ok with the way things are,I asked him if he is wanting to date other women or if he feels claustrophobic and he says NO! WHAT IN THE WORLD AM I TO MAKE OF THIS?????????????PLEASE HELP!!! I really do want to make this work but I also know its not enough for just me to do all the loving.
Thanks,
Kiritina.
Love 
