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I met this guy earlier this year. I knew he was going thru a divorce so he was off limits even though all of us girls thought he was soo cute! He was with our group every week-end thru the summer. (we are a group of 40-50 somethings and he is late 30's) anyways. The times that I was not around he would ask the other girls where was I. One of my guy friends (who he is pretty close with) said he likes you. So come Aug. the flirting really got out of hand and we did end up doing more together and well one thing led to another and ...well you know the rest. Anyways, after we spent a few weeks together he said he isn't looking for a commitment and he just has alot on his plate with the divorce ect. (they have not lived together for about a year now) But says he is very attracted to me and always has good time. Here's the problem, he stopped talking to me for about 3 weeks due to the fact he started spending time with a 24 year old!!  Then he invited all of us to a party and I saw him for for the first time in 3 weeks and he completely snubbed his young date and stood by me the entire nite. He continues to tell everyone that they are just friends just as he said we were. When his young date left the party in tears we were all over each other and he continued to tell myself and my friends that he has made some wrong choices recently. Since this party he has continuously called and text me almost everyday and a lot of the conversations and texts have sexual under tones (we are physically attracted to each other.) However he is still seeing this young girl "friend" and continues to say that its not what everyone thinks. that there is no long term with her as she will want kids one day and he is done having kids. etc. Every time he does come out with my group of friends he is all over me. His family loves me and they all have said just hang in there he has alot on his plate but we know he likes you he talks about you all the time. MY friends have said the same thing. When we are out he watches me all the time. I really found that I liked this guy back in aug. but dont want to get hurt. Is he playing a players game with me or what .  Is he sowing his oats because he is just out of a 22 year relationship?Does he like me but knows I want a commitment???? I'm so confused.  I would really like the input of a man on this one.   Thanks

If you really like this guy,,, you need to end it now, he is so playing you...  I am really sorry your good friends have not called his a@@ out yet...  Maybe he is really charming, there is no way I would let one of my friends get involved with a loser like this...   All the signs all there, he just quit talking to you one day for no reason and end up with younger women..   I think he in it for the sexual attraction that you guys have and I hope you have to much going to for yourself to be with someone who is using you...   And I am sorry it show what kind of guy he is for what he did inviting both women he is seeing to a party o my gosh...   Happen that was you he ignored all night image what he is telling the other women about you....   Get Out NOW....   Good luck

Hi there, aren't men a pain!  I am also crushing on a guy (who is spoiled by his gentics and made into a player by reason of being able to attain whoever he wants) who it'll never work with, and unfortunately that's my analysis right now for ya.  I might post my own sob story here pretty quick. But i suggest keeping in touch as he might come to his senses.