Hot Topic: Games People Play

Well I got out of a 6 yr relationship about 3 months ago, have been non-stop with meeting/dating/interacting with different men that do not even compare to what i want in a boyfriend which in turn would eventually make me lose interest. With those guys, I felt I was somewhat in control, that i had the upperhand. Well now I met this guy through a mutual friend about 3 weeks ago. We had talked on the phone prior to meeting for about 2 weeks and when we met the attraction was instant. As we continued to hang out, I felt a very strong connection with him and saw potential so we became intimate pretty quickly. Though I had gone on dates and met different men prior to this guy, hes the only one i became intimate with since my ex. Now I had posted a message about this guy planning to get a job in Orlando and moving there within 5-6 months (I live in Miami) so i was contemplating whether I should stop seeing him or just take my chances and see where this goes, i decided to take my chances.

Now the thing is, i have already expressed that i like him alot and that i wouldnt have become intimate if i didnt see potential in something more and I told him what im looking for. I basically laid everything out on the table to the point where i had thought so many times this guy was defenitely going to stop talking to me but surprisingly he would continue to act interested and show me consistency. Their are times we hang out where we do not become intimate, which is nice because it doesnt make me feel like thats all we are doing. Now I had told him recently that "I wanted to make sure were kind of on the same page here?" and he tells me "Well I like you alot and think you are great but it seems like you have a 12 step plan going on already (LOL! maybe i do just alittle) and that you might be liking me alittle more" (Now obviously i didnt like that comment at all) but that he doesnt want to be just friends with me, he wants to see where this goes. 

I then told him "Look I guess its too soon to tell anything so we'll just go with the flow and see what happens" So obviously from that very honest comment he made, his head is extremely inflated and he is very secure. I can defenitely see somewhat the mental games that he is playing and i dont like that one of his possible games could be to try to make me fall for him just to feed his ego. I know Im assuming alot but Im a very skeptical woman and Im afraid I might be wasting my time in investing my emotions in him. I really dont know what to do from here or how to act with him from this point on. I feel like i need to act tough now and no longer be too nice or something. Obviously i want this guy to fall for me because i like him, I want him to want to be in a r'ship with me. Im sad that were acting like a couple and were not. Technically we can still see other people (though he did mention "If ur dating other men then ur not dating me") so obviously he doesnt want me to date other men but the fact is we can do what we want and I dont like that, I dont like that im not anything to him except just a girl hes dating. Then again Im moving way to fast probably in wanting to be his girlfriend already. I dont know when to ask the question "So what are we?" Im new to this, I didnt think I would like somebody this fast. What do u recommend? Any comments would be greatly appreciated. Sorry so long...