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What does it mean when a guy says he's looking to conquer you?

I'm dating a guy who initially says he's not looking for a relationship, because it's too much stress and he wants to stay happy. Yet, he's always telling me I'm wife material. We've had sex once and during foreplay he says's I'm going to make you mine. Yesterday a week after our encounter he tells me that he's trying to figure out how to conquer me and I should be trying to figure out how to conquer him. What the hell does that mean?

Besides being put off by the terminology?

Sex is good, it's important, but it isn't what binds two people. Seems like he's saying if he does everything right in bed & you come more times than before, he'll win you over. What about the rest of the 24 hours in the day? A non-sex connection, enjoying each other with clothes on.

I'd believe the not looking for relationship more than "wife material." Because it could very well be someone else you'd make a good wife for.

I know you've heard the term "P#ssy Whipped" right?  Well that's what he's trying to do to you...."D#ck whip" you.  He's basically saying that he's trying to whip some sex on you sooooo good.....that he'll have you whipped.

Trust me.  I'm a dude.  This is what is meant by "CONQUER".

So if you're cool with that.  Go for it.  There's bound to be some good sex in it for you.  But it's been my experience since reading these threads at iVill. that there is no such thing as "no strings attached" sex.  EVERYBODY (almost) who's chimmed in about such a relationship talks of hurt and regret at the end. 

Just my two cents.

 As a man myself, I have to AGREE with what MC has said.

 This guy you're with is trying to do things to you, so that he FEELS like a man. If this is what it seems, your guy is VERY low self-esteem and is USING you to boost it. So if he does "conquer" you, he will have boosted his fragile esteem enough to move onto his next conquest.

 On a side note, if what you've said about him is taken out of context, then everything I've said is VOID. You'll find out one way or the other.