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I, and let it take it's course from there, no pushes from me.  Calvin(not real name) said he ha have been seeing this guy for 5 months now, and I feel like our relationship is changing already.  I liked being single, but was out of the dating world for about a year, so when I met him, I decided to go ahead and give it a try.  I was honest, I told him I didn't know what I was looking for, but that I wasn't going to push destiny.  I'm not looking for a husband, or a man, boyfriend.  Just someone to get to knowd broken off his engagement about a year ago, and had been single, and only dated maybe two women before meeting me, so I wasn't worried about the rebound syndrome.  We always have fun together, in and out of bed.  We get along great, but that's partly because we have a no drama clause in our arrangement.  I've met his family and hung out with them all.   BUT.  It seems that the relationship has changed a little.  There is this big elephant in the room, I think it's 'feelings" on both ends though.  I don't discuss this, because I know I'm not ready to drive down this road.  How do I find out how he's feeling, although I've seen it in some of his actions without pushing him away in fear.  I think we both have some serious commitment issues, and this is part of the reason we have gotten along so well.  Both of us are extremely hard hearted and headed when it comes to the opposite sex.  Even our sex has changed, and this started my concern.  It would be all wild and fun, and now it seems so much more intimate.  It has gone from a F fest, to more of a love making session.  I'll admit, I didn't sign on to fall for this guy, and told my sister that he was not someone who would be around long.  I'm posting this, and I still feel as though I'm leaving something out.  Help!

I think I have a mild case of "like" for him and he for me, but do we just not talk about it?   

 I know you've come here to get some thoughts about this guy, it's just that in my own opinion there's a HUGE elephant in the room, and it has NOTHING to do with this guy. To me this elephant is your commitment issues. I'm curious how you're supposed to get "intimate" with someone since you've admitted yourself you have r-ship issues.

 It's like driving a car without a steering wheel. You can try all you want, but you'll never get to where you want until you're able to have some control over what's going on.

 I know most people think it's TOO much work to heal inner wounds, and for some it is hard work. I've never known someone to work hard for something and not be grateful they did, especially when it comes to "self-healing."

 Work out your commitment issues, FIRST, and THEN date.