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Feels like a roomate

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  Oct-9 8:42 am

We have been struggling since my son was in the 8th grade.  He is now in his third year of college.  So, about 7 or 8 years......I feel trapped as well, since I am not supposed to divorce except on the grounds of adultery.  But, living in a loveless relationship is driving me crazy!
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  Oct-9 10:50 am

How do you do it? I hate it. Can you separate but not divorce?
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  Oct-9 10:57 am

The only purpose to separate and not divorce is to hope that your spouse "wakes up" to the seriousness of the situation and you are able to reconcile.  Right now she "says" she wants to do individual counseling and then maybe couples counseling after that.  I hope so.  But, it's more like, I will believe it when I see it.
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  Oct-9 11:07 am

At least she is willing to work on issues. That is hope. Be careful, I have been living off of hope for too long. It is a hard habit to break. Give her the benefit of the doubt. If divorce is not an option, I guess it is the only option.

Separation does not have to be the wake up call. I have actually known of people who separated and never divorced, for whatever strange reason. But if you can be happy that way, I guess it is an option.
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  Oct-10 3:44 pm

Hi Almarie...been very busy here so sorry took time to respond to your memo....well not good to hear that your sick...sure hope your feeling better and as soon as you do write me so we can talk....sucks being sick...talk to you soon...feel better....
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