Hot Topic: I Don't Want to Get Married

OMG........just because she has a piece of paper does not guarantee the "long haul"

No one knows what the future holds.   There are people getting divorced that I would have NEVER thought possible.  

It has been my experience that when married people make spiteful comments, it is because they are jealous of a single person's freedom.   Seriously, I bet she is not as happy as she wants people to believe.

Sorry you have to put up with that sh--.    I put up with it all the time.   It gets a bit annoying after a while.

Take care

Wow! I have been lurking on the living together board for a couple of years, but never felt like I can relate to them. I have been with my SO for four years. I am almost 30 (this September) and he is 26. It is amazing to find other people who think and feel the same way I da about marriage. Ever since I could remember I have never wanted to get married (although I would love children some day).

Whenever I mention that marriage is not part of my life plan people either tell me I have not met the right person or I will change my mind when I grow up. Apparently, if I am a female all my life goals have to concentrate on the ceremony and a white dress. OMG, drives me bonkers. LOL. I agree with many of you. I want my relationship to be based on both of us wanting to be there not having to be there for each other.

I always believed that marriage is for those who want it. My parents have been happily married for 34 years, and I say good for them. I know other people who are married and happy. Interestingly enough, they are the ones who never question my decisions. On the other hand, every single unhappily married person I have ever run into asks me when am I getting married.

Anyway, I am very happy to have run into this board and would love to get to know others better. Thanks!

<<I know other people who are married and happy. Interestingly enough, they are the ones who never question my decisions. On the other hand, every single unhappily married person I have ever run into asks me when am I getting married.>>

It happened to me too.  People who are happily married for many years will neevr question my decisions either.  They told me that is not for everybody.  The one who are not so happily married are always the one ask me that kind of the stupid question.  I am 31 and still have no such desire to be married at all.  It is really not my life plan.  I think marriage is considered as a ceremony to me and doesn't mean it is a secured relationship for life time.  For me, I might feel more insecured of being married than not to.

I like this board too because those people out here have the same mind like us.  It is perfectly fine to have children without being married.  For me, I am childfree by choice so I don't think marriage to me is important to me at all.

I think people made a big mistake in their life of being married and ended up pushing other people to do the samething like them so they don't feel bad about themselves.