I suggested this board to the mods because at the time it really started sinking in that my boyfriend is/was serious about not wanting to be married again, and I felt so displaced on IV. I was grieving because marriage is important to me, if only for the respect I/"one" gets for their relationship. I want to be taken seriously. I don't want to be asked if I'm the nanny, or introduced as the "friend"... I am more than that!
Anyway, I was hoping to find like minded people, but like minded in my boyfriend's thoughts so I could better understand his position. I've gotten that and I'm glad!