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  8/7/2008 2:50 pm

What other people think of you because you don't want to be married?

I have been living in Toronto for so many years.  Over there, it is socially very unacceptable of not being married.  What people said to me is "it is more acceptable to be married at least once in your lifetime and then divoce later than never married in your lifetime".  For me, I really don't know which one is more acceptable but I rather choose never married than have been married and never workout.

I have moved to Calgary about a year ago.  Looks to me nobody really cares even you are not married.  On the other hand, many women married in their early 20s and they assumed that we will change our mind. 

I really hate peole who are so obsessive of some other people who are not married but I don't care what they say to me.  I just think they have been brain washed in their whole life.  Frankly, it is only a ceremony to me.

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'..What other people think of you because you don't want to be married?'

Absolutely do not care in the slightest. I'm 37, my life's my own, noone tells me what I do or do not do!! More than happy with bf of 4.5 years and that's that! 

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  8/27/2008 9:14 am

I totally agree with you.  Why get married at all if the relationship will not last?  I, myself, have never been married and like you, do not ever want to get married, especially since for me, there are no quality guys out there.  I do not want kids, ever, so as far as I'm concerned, I might as well tie my tubes up!  Like you've said, marriage is just a ceremony which, for some happy couples (few and far in between), is good but for the rest of us non-married ones, it's just a tradition that we do not have to follow, no matter what anyone says or thinks.  My parents remind me all the time that I'm not married and that I need to hurry up to get to that blissful state because my body clock is ticking.  You know what I tell them?  That I don't care!  Let it tick away because I do not want to get married.  They're part of the baby-boomers group, so they've never entertained the idea of non-marriages.  In fact, they're continually shocked that I've made this decision.  So no matter what nosy people say or think, just ignore them!  They don't know what they're saying, especially not what's best for you.  Only you know what's best for you.
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