So...awhile back, when i was on the computer, i caught my bf looking at tranny porn. I confronted him, and he said, he looks at everything. while we have experimented, with me pentrating other parts of him...the back door, it made me wonder. he told me, "there isn't alot of porn, where the girl is dominating the guy" if you know what i mean. So then, i just didn't care that he looked at it. Ever since then, it's hard for me to trust him. i found on his comp, he was registered on a tranny dating site, and it had all his info, but a picture. confronted him and he got all pissed and said i didn't trust him and it was a HUGE fight. he said it wasn't him and it could have been a hacker, yada yada and whenver i come home, he's so secretive about what he is looking at on the comp. So i stopped snooping, cuz it brought me down...andi understand he is secretive, cuz sometimes i make fun of the stuff he looks at...mainly because he won't tell me. So lately, i go on his favorites on his comp, there is a a file saved specifically just for tranny porn, among other porn, like girl on girl, guy on girl...which i don't mind. Should i be concerned? How come he won't tell me the truth? im not gonna hate him and im not going to tell anyone...and I told him I just wanted him to be honest. ugh...what am i suppose to do? although he never told me wants to be with one, truly i think he does, so i have just accepted that. Although, i know for a fact he hasn't cheated. It may be a fanstasy but is it required that he should be honest with me? it makes me sad...please help. need opinions. (this almost resulted in a break up...but he says he isn't actually INTERESTed, just likes looking) hmmmm...well i like looking at certain porn cuz i actually want to do something in that genre...please help.
<<well i like looking at certain porn cuz i actually want to do something in that genre>> That is you, it's not him. You look at certain porn because it's something you really want, not everyone thinks the way you think. Just because that's your reason for looking at certain porn doesn't mean he has to have the same reason to look at the porn he looks at.
I look at a large variety of porn including tranny porn but I have no interest in being with a tranny. There are other types of porn I look at that I have no interest in it for my life. I enjoy gang bang porn but I don't want a gang bang in my real life. Other kinds of porn I watch are things that we do sexually and what I do want in my sex life.
Honesty is important in a relationship but so is one's privacy and IMO not everything needs to be shared with a partner. Maybe what porn he watches privately is for his own solo fun, his own turn-on fantasy, how is that any of your business? We all have a right to fantasize and keep our fantasies to ourself if we choose to.
The only part that would bother me if my partner did the things your b/f is doing would be the dating site. It wouldn't matter to me what kind of dating site it was (tranny, straight, gay, etc.), for our relationship, him or I being on any dating site is crossing the relationship boundary line.
Everyone also has a right to their privacy and no one has the right to invade another's privacy.
<<andi understand he is secretive, cuz sometimes i make fun of the stuff he looks at>> You make fun of him yet you want him to be honest with you and share his fantasies with you. Do you really wonder why he's not being honest about what he watches when you belittle him by making fun of him?
If you trust your partner then you would not feel the need to snoop into their stuff. If my partner invaded my privacy by snooping on me, checking my emails, phone calls, reading my journal, whatever is mine that I want private, it would be a deal breaker for me because that shows me he doesn't trust me. I won't be in a relationship where there is less than 100% mutual trust. I have nothing to hide from him but I still expect my privacy to be respected the same as I respect his privacy.
I agree with Tish. If my DH made fun of me for what I watch, I wouldn't want to share those things with him because I wouldn't want to be made fun of. People like different things for different reasons.
The dating site would be a deal breaking for us as well (any kind of dating site). Was this a dating site that he had just recently joined or one that he was a part of before the two of you got together and he never deleted?
WOw...tish. Actually you made me feel better after I read your post :O). Ive gotten past the whole dating site thing, because I honestly think, maybe it was just to look at what kind of trannys were in the area, but not to actually be with one, but i don't know, still confused bout that. But as for everything else you said...it actually made me feel better and more at ease about the situation. And i know i shouldn't look through his stuff...because my bf said, "u are looking for a reason to be upset" yada yada...thank you for your reply. I really did need someone to say that, and see another perspective from the situation.
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