He was on some stuff to make it rise but it was really expensive and not covered by insurance. <<<
Talk to the doctor again. Is there a less expensive option, or alternate method.
No relatives to send them with... <<< About the friends option?
We have been known to just close the door and do it in the bathroom quick as we can. <<< That's hott! I'd bring that up. "Honey, I know WE'RE stressed, but I miss the sneaky sex game, I felt like your partner in crime, like we were getting away with something (or whatever your answer is.) Want to try something like that again? We haven't done it in the garage yet, or way back at the end of the yard in the dark, do you think the Tompsons would see us?"
I am a stay at home Mom so I get plenty of time to myself and he does not care what I look at or do with my time..<<<
When does he have alone time? Does he have another outside hobby? A best male friend to hang out with? Maybe he's not getting his alone time fix & this is how it is manifesting. Soccer, golf, fishing? Would you encourage any hobby he had before-kids? Everyone needs time away from responsibilities. And talking to other men at work, isn't the same as hanging with your bud on a weekend day.
I understand wanting more couple activities, besides sex. Mine works weird hours too & isn't home on weekend days. So I do want to spend as much time together when he is home, but have to remind myself that sometimes he'll have to go over to his friend's house. Scratch, tell fart jokes, whatever it is they do.
It's also the lack of anything constructive being done. I would even be apt to feel nothing about it had he also folded the load of clothes he was sitting on top of, lol, or took ou the trash that needed to go out. <<<
Have you approached it from that angle? That if the "chores" were done, it might not be so bad? But ... if the chores do get done & porn still happens when you go out, will you be prepared to stand by your original answer that it would be ok.
Usually the sex is in bed, lights out and quick. <<<
At least start leaving the lights on.
but isn't that what I'm also for????? I feel like I'm not enough... <<<
I don't know. I've never subscribed to that philosophy. I get my libido from so many places, I couldn't say BF should only get hott "from" me. I am the sole beneficiary, yes, but not the sole instigator. Like "I don't care where you get your appetite, but you eat at home." Sex is a constant thought, and always evolving. So sometimes I'll want it because it's been awhile, or because it's Tuesday, or because I'm so in love with him that day, or something I ate, who knows!
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