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  missybee837  Member Icon
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  Oct-29 12:22 pm

I have a new boyfriend we have been seeing each other for about 2 months...... he stays with me alot. Lately I have been "overhearing" a few conversations he has had with another girl on the phone. (i dont mean to over hear them it just happend)

I overheard him say thanks for making love to me.... I was floored. I could not ask about the phone call i just left the room. I dont mean to snoop but now everytime he goes to the other room....i always want to hear what he has to say this time. I dont know what else to do.
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  Oct-29 2:42 pm

I would actually just ask him about it...be honest that you weren't intentionally listening but overheard something that concerns you.  Are you definately exclusive or is there a chance he thinks it's ok for him to be seeing other women?  If he is sleeping with somebody else, you have the right to know in this day and age of STD's.  You won't be able to stop thinking about it until it's resolved, so I'd just try to resolve it by talking to him, rather than snooping around to try to find answers.  This will likely only lead to an overactive imagination and you "looking for" something incriminating.  I do this all the time...it's always just easier for me to ask my husband about something specific if it's bothering me, rather than do my own investigative work...I always feel much worse if I do that.  Good luck and let us know how you make out with whatever you decide to do!
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thanks. I have heard so many different suggestions. I am really scared about how he is going to react. and how his answers are going to turn into excuses. but i know your right. i have to ask or its going to eat me alive.
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