Snooping & Jealousy

I snooped once when my boyfriend left his Email open and I felt a lot like you do. I never did it again and he was angry at me for a short amount of time but he got over it, like your boyfriend will get over it too. Yes maybe he doesn't leave it on the nightstand so it won't serve as a temptation for you or anything but neither I nor anyone else here can tell you exactly why he does what he does.

It doesn't matter what he's doing now, but what you're doing to move on from this. Put this in the past. Do not go through his phone again, ever. He is not either of your exes. A great way to ruin a relationship is to create mistrust based on nothing he has done to deserve mistrust. Your relationship is in its infancy - almost a probation period - And if he feels like he's not trusted he's not going to stick around. I urge you to end the snooping and put this behind you.

Well, I think from what you are saying, you are carrying the trauma of your past relationships into this one.  Sometimes women have a six sense about things but unless you are seeing more than you are writing about, I think you should back off from this and not over analyze it.

I have snooped on my husband quite abit but he deserved it.  He had a secret Myspace with exes on it that he communicated with.  Took a long time to get over that.  I think the reason we do this, is the more we care about someone, the more we fear the hurt that could result if history repeats itself.  But, we can't control other people, and love is risky.

You may need to see a therapist for awhile to work through the trauma of being cheated on so it doesn't contaminate new relationships.  You are starting to care for this man, so your anxiety is rising and getting the better of you.

(((HUGS)) and I agree with the previous posters - you know what you did was wrong, you admitted it, apologized for it, and now it's time to move on past it, and never repeat it again. I think this article may help some for your trust issues.

 
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