Snooping & Jealousy

Gee, sounds similar to what happened to me, in a way.  My husband is 12 yrs younger than me, was living in my house, and had a secret Myspace where he communicated with three past ho tramp girlfriends, not extensively, but I found out about it accidently.  The proverbial stuffing hit the fan, I was so ticked.

The difference is that he verbalized that he loved me and he wasn't actively seeking out new hos..  I wouldn't let a guy live with me in my house if he couldn't spit out the words I love you.  I think you should show him some teeth and kick him out, saying you deserve better. If he doesn't come back saying sorry, that tells you something, and if he does come back saying I love you, that tells you something too.  Win win as I see it.

As a friend told me, you can be a dormat made of diamonds, but if you let yourself be treated like a doormat, people will still step on you...

If he can't say I love you, why are you living with him? For me the amount of time you have been together, he should be able to say I love you. That's lame that he says it takes time. In my eyes it means he clearly doesn't love you.

From the begining he has lied to you. If women are texting him and he is lying about who they are, then there is an issue. If they are just friends and there is nothing to worry about then he should be able to tell who you is texting him, when you ask, with no hesitation.

I think it's ok for a man to have female friends but for me, I wouldn't tolerate secretive texting, lying about who is calling or texting and chatting with other females on-line I don' t know. That's my personal preference.

It sounds to me like you have a gut feeling and you already know what's up. You need to decide if this is how you want to live. It's easy for oters to say your over reacting, but you have to go by what makes you feel uncomfortable, not on what others have to say about it.